If you have a GOLD personality style:
Your core Values are Tradition, Loyalty, and Family.
Your core Needs are belonging through Duty and Responsibility.
You are serious and tend to have a traditional, conservative view of both love and marriage. You want a mate who can work along with you building a secure predictable life together. You demonstrate love and affection through the practical things You do for your loved ones. You like to plan parties and events around the holidays and special occasions. There is a strong sense of right and wrong that can sometimes lead to conflict.
Golds need to feel a sense of belonging at home, at work, at school, in the community, or in any group with which they are involved. Feeling like an outsider or outcast is very disturbing to them. They are, therefore, very responsible and adhere to the norms of the group.
When Golds shine they like to do things to help. They are task and structure focused as well as serious and hardworking. They like to plan ahead and keep things organized. They care for their health and are dependable, reliable, and conscientious. Golds are respectful, responsible, and cooperative. They usually place traditions and family time high on their priority lists. However, when fatigued or stressed they may become overly rigid, self-righteous, and possessive. Natural positive attitudes can turn pessimistic, negative and highly opinionated. They may become compulsive, and get physically sick.
Areas to be aware of
What stresses a Gold person:
- Lack of follow through when others don’t do what they’ve promised
- Lack of closure – having to switch what they are doing without completing it first
- Taking on too much responsibilities
- Many things going on at the same time
- Irresponsibility in others
- When things are not put back where they belong
- Not adhering to schedule or plans
- Unclear expectations, lack of rules instructions
- Not knowing where they fit in
- Lack of membership or belonging
Being exposed to stressors for a long period of time leads to behaviours such as:
- Complaining and self pity
- Exhibits anxiety and worry
- Reacts physically to stress
- Judges self and others harshly
- Exhibits “blind herd” mentality
- Displays negative attitude
- Becomes controlling, rigid and close-minded
Golds need to remember
At times Golds are perceived as the keepers of the law. In their respect for doing things well and right, you might come across as more concerned for the correct answer than the loving response. The rules are not always as important as the spirit of the rule. That the people around you might need you to see the big picture, it’s okay to be late from time to time, and that some rules are made just so that they can be broken. Flexibility goes a long way in bringing people together, and relationships are more important than obligations.
Important information for significant others
Be Responsible. If you said you would do something, do it. Keep your agreements with a Gold person. Golds are dependable and they expect others will be as well. This shows them respect and appreciation.
Provide clear expectations. They want to know where they stand and what is expected of them. To leave them guessing is one of the most stressful things you can do to a Gold. If they have guessed wrong and can violate some unspoken rule they can be crushed. After all, they were doing the best they can under the circumstances, and now they have done something “wrong”. They try at all costs to be “right” and appropriate.