If you are a BLUE personality style:
Your core Values are Authenticity and Harmony.
Your core Needs are People and Relationships.

 

In Relationships

Blues seek harmonious relationships and believe in true love. They are romantic and cherish the small gestures of love. Blues also tend to be affectionate, supportive, natural peacekeepers and sensitive to the needs of others. They bring drama, warmth and empathy to relationships, and dislike conflict.

 

Blues

Are very concerned about the well-being and feelings of others and are the self-appointed care-takers, peace keepers. They love to supporter others and be a source of motivation.

 

Blues appreciate everyone and everything. They are honest, have integrity, enjoy teamwork and cooperation. They have a contagious enthusiasm, bring encouragement, and strive for peace and harmony. It is important to a blue to feel that they make meaningful contributions to life. If they are able to experience this, Blues will have high esteem.

 

However, if they are in an environment where they can’t express their authentic self (In other words, be real) or don’t feel like they can make contributions to better someone’s life, they begin to fade. They easily take on other’s problems, sacrificing their own needs to put other’s first. If the environment is persistently negative, rejecting or filled with conflict, they become overwhelmed and begin acting out.

Areas to be aware of

What stresses a Blue person

 

  • Conflict
  • Overloaded
  • Overwhelmed
  • Isolation
  • Being left out
  • Rejection
  • Lack of trust
  • Lack of acknowledgment
  • Lack of tolerance
  • Aggressiveness
  • Negativity
  • Not able to express genuine self
  • Not able to share
  • Not being appreciated
  • Lack of caring
  • Insincerity
  • Lack of romance or touch
  • Lack of cooperation
  • Unsure or unsafe environment
  • Rigidity
  • Saying “No”

Being exposed to stressors for a long period of time leads to behaviours such as:

 

  • Attention Getting
  • Inconsistency
  • Pretence
  • Withdrawal
  • Losing track of personal priorities
  • Fantasizing
  • Daydreaming excessively
  • Tears
  • Depression
  • Passive-resistant behaviour
  • Loud expression of emotions

Blues need to remember:

If there is something bothering you, say it with words. The people around you might not even be aware of the subtleties of your communication. Be concise and to the point. Because you don’t want to offend, you may try to soften the point. This is often perceived as beating around the bush and wasting their time.

 

Important information for significant others

Validate them. Compliments paid to Blues about their natural compassion, their creative approach to human understanding, their ability to work with others, and their sensitivity to the feelings of others makes them glow with pride.

 

Listen to them. Blues get frustrated when they are not given opportunity to share their dreams and their days. Gestures of friendship and physical contact go a long way.

 

Warmth and human contact are important to them. Show kindness, offer a listening ear, provide avenues for growth and expression of creativity, limit requests, provide love and romance, and trust them.

 

It is said of Blues that they will forgive, but a Blue never forgets.

Learn More & Share!

Don't forget to learn more about Blue, Orange, Green and Gold. Remember, your highest score is your primary style, and the next highest is your secondary style of relating. Both are important in describing your relationship style, so it may be necessary to read your secondary description as well.