Our goals for relationship counselling are based on Gottman Method Couples Therapy and the work of Drs. John and Julie Gottman.  Dr. John Gottman was one of the Top 10 Most Influential Therapists of the past quarter-century by the Psychotherapy Networker. He is the author or co-author of over 200 published academic articles and more than 50 books, including the 2024 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict into Connection, and others such as the bestselling The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work; What Makes Love Last; Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love; The Relationship Cure; Why Marriages Succeed or Fail; and Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child — among many others. Dr. Gottman’s media appearances include Good Morning America, Today, CBS Morning News, and Oprah, as well articles in The New York Times, Ladies Home Journal, Redbook, Glamour, Woman’s Day, People, Self, Reader’s Digest, and Psychology Today.

Topics will include:

  1. Understanding personality differences
  2. How to build passion and love back into the relationship
  3. How to solve or dialogue effectively about any issue you face
  4. Learning about love languages and how to discover yours
  5. How to process failed bids for connection
  6. Building a shared meaning system that propels you into a more fulfilling future.


Cups of love


You will be expected to:

  • Do weekly homework
  • Participate fully in all appointments
  • Commit to having a better relationship
  • Inform your Therapist if you are not understanding something or if he/she is missing something

Marriage Counselling Session


You Will Learn:

  • How your personality styles affect your relationship and what to do about it simple negotiation techniques
  • How to identify and find antidotes for the “Four Horsemen”: Contempt, Criticism, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
  • About your “Friendship Profile”, the “Conflict Profile”, and the “Shared Meanings Profile”
  • How to resolve the “physiological flooding” and anxious feelings that accompany many relationships
  • To successfully dialogue about grid-locked conflicts
  • To establish six social skills necessary for effective conflict resolution
  • To love unconditionally with no strings attached
  • Stages of forgiveness and how to apologize and mean it
  • How to deepen “the friendship System”
  • How to develop and create a shared system of values and meanings

If you are ready to undertake these expectations and would like to see the above tools and principles developed in your relationship, call us at 604-539-5277 to set up a counselling session.

Our Counselling Process

Don’t live in our area? We can still help — see our page on marathon counselling sessions and call us today for further information. We also offer professional advice and guidance on dealing with affairs, depression, addiction, trauma and violent behaviour.

Not in the Langley Area?

We offer intensive multi-day marathon counselling or couples workshops in multiple cities across British Columbia and Alberta.


Don’t throw in the towel – your relationship is worth fighting for

Even though it is easy to lose hope in finding a way out, there is light at the end of the tunnel. Our job is to help you find it.