When we encourage couples to continue their courtship no matter how long they have been together, we find the suggestion seems to fall flat. By courtship, we mean going on dates, doing special things, holding hands, giving gifts, kissing like you mean it, and saying lots of nice things to your partner. It seems like there is a general consensus that this feels a bit awkward as we are already together so why keep trying to impress each other. Of course everyone agrees to do it and then doesn’t, unless a breakup is inevitable.
What most relationship experts will agree on is that when these things are done in long term relationships they actually pack a bigger punch and have more impact. Why? It’s simple. All of those nice things mean more because you do not have to do them. Your partner knows this and that’s why it’s more special.
