Last week, we talked about how changing your perspective can truly change your relationship. It’s amazing how perspective can influence what you see and how you feel to such a great degree. That’s why we wanted to build on that idea with some actionable tips to help you become happier in your relationship. Think of this week’s post as a sort of “part 2” to last week’s topic.
Over time, we as people change. It’s a fact of life. If you could ask the you from 10-20 years ago some life questions the answers would probably be much different than from the you of today.
Add to that our changing expectations over time and it’s a dreadful mix. Do you remember how at the beginning of your relationship you were much more likely to let little things slide, or see the good over the bad? After a few years, that attitude and perspective can change. You start to expect more of your partner. The “cute quirks” can start to become annoying and irritating.
And so what was once a blossoming, fiery love can become a dimly lit flame struggling to stay alight. It doesn’t necessarily mean, however, that there is something wrong with the relationship. It could all be a matter of perspective.
Sure, there are some negative situations where perspective doesn’t play a role. Abuse or constant neglect, for example.
But for many who have become used to only seeing the bad in their partner, it truly can be a matter of toxic thoughts influencing your reality. And a fresh perspective can actually make you fall back in love.
